Let’s face it – talking to a teenager (whether it’s your child, a relative, or someone you support) about anything can be tricky. But when the subject turns to something sensitive, like mental health or substance use, it can feel even harder to know where to begin.
The reality is that around one in five young people aged 13–18 will experience a mental health difficulty or issues related to substance use each year. That’s why it’s so important to keep the lines of communication open – even when it feels awkward.
Here are five tips to help you start meaningful conversations with the teens in your life:
1. Be genuine
Teenagers can spot insincerity a mile off. If you’re feeling a bit unsure or out of your depth, say so. Try something like, “This isn’t easy for me to talk about, so I understand if it feels difficult for you too.” Being honest shows you’re human and helps build trust.
2. Ditch the slang
Trying to sound “down with the kids” by throwing in slang you wouldn’t normally use can backfire. Most teens can tell when an adult is trying too hard – and it might even put them off talking. Use your own voice and speak in a way that feels natural to you.
3. Embrace the silence
Young people might need a moment to process their thoughts – and that’s OK. Resist the urge to fill every pause. Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply give them space to find their words.
4. Pick the right setting
Where you talk can make all the difference. You might find that a walk, a drive, or doing something side-by-side (like cooking or tidying up) creates a more relaxed space to open up. Avoiding direct eye contact can help some teens feel more at ease.
5. Respect their feelings
Never dismiss what they’re going through. Saying things like, “You’re too young to be stressed” or “What have you got to worry about?” can be incredibly invalidating. Mental health struggles can affect anyone, regardless of age – and young people’s experiences are just as real as anyone else’s.
The more we normalise conversations about mental health and substance use, the easier they become – for everyone. And remember: one honest, open conversation could make all the difference for a young person who’s struggling.
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